You can love someone with your whole heart and still not have a good relationship. Relationships take sacrifice, self-reflection, and a lot of work. That being said, not every relationship deserves a fight. Some people aren’t right for you, no matter how much you love them. Here are 14 signs it’s time to give up on your relationship:
Relationships go through rough patches. Some days need more communication and patience than others and that’s normal. What’s not normal is feeling like you have to work at your relationship every single day. Don’t get me wrong, relationships are all about work, but it shouldn’t feel like you’re running a never-ending marathon.
2. YOUR PARTNER ISN’T RELIABLE.
Does your partner show up for you? Is he there when you need him? Would he cancel on his friends to spend time with you after a rough day? If he’s not reliable, he’s not worth fighting for. (And neither is your relationship if that wasn’t obvious.)
Does your relationship take up most of your energy? Then it’s not worth saving. If it was, you wouldn’t be behind on all your work projects and you’d be spending time with your friends and family. It’s OK to make some sacrifices in the name of love, but not to the point that you’re falling behind in other areas
He may not be physically abusive, but he makes you feel less of a person. Whether it’s what he says or how he says it, you shouldn’t be with someone who’s hurting your self-esteem. A relationship with an abusive partner is never worth fighting for.
5. HE DISAPPOINTS YOU.
Has he cheated on you more than once? Does he regularly cancel plans? It sounds like he doesn’t really care about you. If he did, he’d go out of his way to NOT disappoint you. You wouldn’t fail him on purpose, would you? So then why does he fail you?
6. YOU WALK ON EGGSHELLS.
It’s gotten to the point where you’re uncomfortable with each other. The sex is awkward and your conversations stay above the surface. The worst part is that you don’t even care. You’ve grown content with the weirdness that is your relationship and that’s a problem. It’s time to walk away!
7. YOU’RE NOT YOUR HAPPIEST.
If your relationship has turned you into someone bitter and sad, then it’s not worth fighting for. You don’t deserve to be unhappy. Sometimes love isn’t enough to make two people compatible long-term. Don’t fight for a relationship you have to force.
8. NO ONE’S WILLING TO BE VULNERABLE.
After all this time, neither of you feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable. A relationship can’t survive without vulnerability. While you might love each other, your love isn’t deep enough for you to feel safe. You don’t say anything and neither does he. What’s the point of your relationship if you can’t really talk?
9. THERE’S TOO MUCH DAMAGE.
Whether he cheated or you said something unforgivable, sometimes there’s damage that can’t be repaired. You might want to fight through your mistakes to find forgiveness, but it’s not always possible. Sometimes the hardest thing you can do is realize your relationship isn’t worth fighting for.
10. YOUR FRIENDS HAVE DOUBTS.
Triggering comment alert! Your friends see your relationship clearer than you do. They know you, they know him, and they know when there’s a problem. Do your friends think you should call it quits? That’s a pretty clean sign your relationship isn’t worth the energy you’re putting in.
11. HE DOESN’T MEET YOUR LOVE EXPECTATIONS.
Everyone shows their love differently. You might express your affection with words and he might rely on actions. It’s OK if he doesn’t love the same way you do, as long as he’s meeting your emotional expectations. Is he? If not, the relationship will never complete you no matter how hard you fight.
12. YOU’RE OPPOSITE COMMUNICATORS.
He deals with his emotions with avoidance and you prefer open conversation. It’s no wonder your relationship is a challenge. You might think it’s mature to work through this, but it could be a waste of time. Why be with him when you can be with someone whose communication style compliments yours?
At first, you thought it was cute how much he cared about you. But now you realize he likes the control. He wants to know where you are and who you’re with because he’s possessive. While it might not seem dangerous now, it could become dangerous later.
14. YOU’VE ALREADY GIVEN UP.
What dating app are you going to download once your relationship ends? If you answered that question with an actual app, your relationship isn’t worth fighting for and you know it. You’re just afraid to walk away. It’ll be hard for a while, but once the dust settles, you’ll realize it’s better to be alone than stuck with someone who makes life hard.